When people enter psychotherapy, even if they’re desperate and deeply in need, they don’t fully reveal themselves in the early phases of treatment. As in any relationship, it takes time to develop enough trust so you feel safe making yourself vulnerable. A prudent reserve makes sense: how can you be sure the stranger sitting in […]
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One of my colleagues recently told me how dismayed she was that so many of her clients in long-term relationships or marriages seemed to have given up on sex entirely, or had passionless, unsatisfying sex a couple of times a year at most. (She herself has been married for more than 20 years and has
It’s no secret that most people make and then break their New Year’s resolutions, and there’s plenty of Internet advice available on how to avoid such a disappointment: start small, make a detailed step-by-step plan, surround yourself with positive re-enforcement, etc. These are worthy suggestions, though they ignore the unconscious reasons why we often fail
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Sigmund Freud’s theory of the Oedipus complex doesn’t get much airplay these days but it’s still a highly relevant aspect of family life and psycho-dynamic psychotherapy.
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Good things about the superego, and how it came to have a bad rap.
Freud’s Theory of the Id, Ego and Superego: Lost in Translation Read More »
Sexual excitement, while crucial for the early stages of a romance, can be abused as a way to avoid true intimacy.
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Three unusual pieces of relationships advice you won’t find on other Internet sites devoted to dating and relationship problems.
Relationship Advice You Won’t Find Elsewhere on the Internet Read More »
Addicts often have stronger relationships with their drugs than with their significant others, but that is often a cause rather than an effect — the reverse of the way we usually think about it.
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